How To Love Yourself

We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning for that special love. Feeling empty and lost without it. Wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works. Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others. When you expect love from an external source, and someone or something does not fulfill your void and fantasies, then you will feel worse than before. To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do others. Understanding the effects of loving yourself will only enhance your ability to love others. By doing so, you are enabling positive energy and allowing for great situations to occur in your life. This guide will help. Never think that you’re living your life for nothing. Everyday, there are people coming in and out of the world, so spend it wisely and respect yourself. Sometimes we feel as if our lives rely on that one person. We think ‘If I do this, he/ she will like me. We tend to waste time avoiding those certain people, and regret it later. We miss them, yearn for their love, and even waste birthday wishes on them. “In order to love someone, you must love yourself.

Steps

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Treat others with love and respect. Bringing joy to other people’s lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. However, don’t just be very kind to people so you can receive royal treatment.

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Create goodwill and thankfulness by practicing random deeds of kindness. Share your being with others in many ways. Share your knowledge in nice ways or make a small donation to a needy person or an unfortunate child. Share opportunities for your potential happiness by sharing goals and accomplishments with a special person or a group. Help a candidate or a political cause or a community project. Help at a school or church.

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Express yourself, perhaps in a diary or through short stories. You may need to get feelings out, but not on your friends!

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Learn to let go of past events. You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. Don’t close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.

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Forgive yourself. Don’t punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself. Look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don’t ever demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning. If you did something you are not proud of, resolve never to do it again and take steps to keep it out of your mind.

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Put positive statements up some places where you will see them each and every day. “I am beautiful.” or “I have the courage to love.” Write notes that remind you of what you love most about yourself. Read them out loud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them. Sticky notes are fabulous for such affirmations and goals.

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Sit in front of the mirror. Imagine in the mirror is someone putting you down. Then, practice calmly saying to her, “I do ‘not’ care,” with a smile. Practice it until you truly believe it. Do not allow some other person’s image of perfect to manifest you. If you believe you are pretty, the person in the mirror will look pretty. If you focus on what others hate about you, that is all you will see.

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Try to look past “material” objects and feelings: We all want a nice house, nice things, someone to share our life with. Find your true wants objectively. Do you crave power, a religion or simply a motive? Sometimes it’s easier to hide the truth from yourself, but figuring out what you really want will help you know yourself better and hopefully aid in answering important questions you often ask yourself.

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Keep a journal. Write about your experiences, good and bad. When you write down good experiences, allow yourself to feel those feelings. When you remember bad experiences, allow yourself to feel self-compassion. Compassion is not self-pity, but rather willingness to be present/accept with one’s own pain and regret. Most people experienced chronic emotional invalidation growing up; adults shouldn’t expect others to be validating, and need to learn how to validate themselves. Compassion allows us to be present with our pain so it can be acknowledged and let go.

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Be Persistent. Work as steadily as you can at loving and accepting yourself just as you are right now. A large part of love is accepting another “as is”. This is no different for yourself—learn to love yourself “as is”. Only after we’ve accepted themselves we might think about changing some less than desirable characteristics.

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Start working toward how and what you want to do and be. Do so with a positive attitude by working toward your higher purposes and greater appreciation of your problems as motivating your finding new and better opportunities. Be enthusiastic and cheerful (appropriately).

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Don’t define yourself by what you’ve done. Celebrate your accomplishments but let go of the things you haven’t…yet? Remember that success is not a destination. Success is making progress (towards the desires of your heart). Accept yourself, and others will follow your lead. You are not your deeds, appearance, or bank balance.

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Hug Yourself. Show yourself love through a hug by hugging the real you.

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Be who you really are. Express yourself, laugh, play, or sing. Be crazy. Don’t be afraid of what others think. They feel the same way and want to express themselves, but are afraid to show it too.

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Trust yourself. Don’t just follow other people’s suggestions blindly. Learn to trust who you really are.

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Think of five positive words that describe you. Try not to use words like *pretty* and *nice*. Try variety.

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Think about what you really want someone to be like in a relationship. Do those characteristics also apply to you?

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Practice receiving love. To truly love is to be able to receive it. When someone loves you, does some kind deeds to you, say kind words, give you gifts, or give you compliments, embrace it. Allow yourself to feel the love that has come your way. Know that you are worthy of love. It is important to accept a gift of love by others. You give yourself a chance to learn more about yourself that you are lovable. You give someone a joy of giving by loving you. Another important way is to practice receiving love by saying “I love you” to yourself. Let that love fill your heart. Receive that love that you give to yourself unconditionally.

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Practice saying “no”. It is okay to say “no” to people when you do not feel like doing something. Do not feel guilty about it. Just realize that you have the right to do so. This is different from doing things out of love. If you do things out of love and your heart wants to do them, that is a different story. When your heart does not want to do it and you feel like you have to please someone, and make others happy by over extending yourself. Learning how to say “no” is an art. It takes practice. You might say “Thank you for asking. I am not ready to commit to doing anything right now.” You cannot please everyone. When you say “no”, remember to smile sincerely and say “no” gracefully.

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Do what you love. Make yourself happy. What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more loving.

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Treat yourself like treating your very best friend. How do you treat your very best friend? Do you treat him/her with love, kindness, trust, appreciation, acceptance, and respect? If you can give that to your friend, why can’t you give that to yourself? Practice treating yourself like you treat your very best friend by saying kind words to yourself. Stop calling yourself names. Stop beating yourself up. Give yourself compliments. Know your boundaries and listen deeply to your needs. Always be kind and gentle with yourself.

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Nurture yourself. Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture your spiritually by doing meditation.

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Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envy or jealous. A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strength. Get to know yourself and discover what is your greatest gift that you are meant to share with the world. Another great way is by practicing gratitude. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love. No one is quite like you. Just be you. Be grateful for being the wonderful you. Do the best you can. Be the best you can and love yourself more. Then, you have more love to give to others.

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Stop trying to be perfect. Stop criticizing yourself for being less than perfect. Always do your best, but not reaching perfection is NOT failure. Just follow all the steps above and don’t let anyone’s expectations of you put any pressure on you. Remember that no matter what, you will always be perfect just the way you are, flaws and all.

Tips

Remember that you are human because sometimes we feel like outcasts or weirdos, but that is just something that makes you unique and to be human is to be imperfect.
Do what you enjoy. Go out somewhere, perhaps, with someone. Or stay at home, prepare yourself a nice meal and settle down with a good book in front of a cozy fire, a fan or air conditioner.
Every time you realize a negative emotion, pause and feel it; then thank yourself for feeling it, accepting it. Emotions are nothing more than internal experiences which contribute to who we are. Accepting problems (negative things) as opportunities (good things) in another perspective can yield great results (problem solving).
Mirrors will be your friend in this process. Seeing yourself as lovely and worthy of love is extremely important. Pick a favorite characteristic about yourself. Don’t look in the mirror and proceed to look for characteristics that need “fixing.” Focus on the positives until you are in a place where you can objectively see yourself and areas that you legitimately may want to “fix.”
Remind yourself that you are worth loving. Many people tend to get insecure about themselves, when in all reality we are all human beings! Always believe in yourself and be the confident optimistic you.
Treat yourself like the most loving parent would. NEVER EVER put yourself down. EVER.
Listen carefully to the messages you are sending for yourself. Turn off negative messages or turn them into a positive messages.
Remember not to beat yourself up for failing to love yourself immediately. It is a process. Show yourself compassion and understand that it will take time to see yourself in the positive light that you should.
Never expect to be like someone else 100%. Use your life to build a mysterious and appealing YOU. Not a remake of someone else. So what if you like Mr. Popular? If you have to change to catch his attention, he obviously isn’t worth it. When the guy who comes along liking you for for you, then you know it’s totally worth loving yourself.
Being nice may seem to be in every Proud Crowd’s agenda, but YOU don’t have to be nice to fit in. If your real personality is loud and outspoken, go for it! Stifling yourself is not recommended; it will only lead to self-hatred.

Crazy Makeup

From full brows to bright eyeliner, there are a ton of makeup looks seen on the runways that might seem too “out there” for daily wear. I mean, really, who’s going to use stencils to apply her eyeshadow, then glue a giant piece of lace to her face? (Oh wait, is that Lady Gaga with her hand raised?)

While researching “crazy makeup looks,” we found everything from a missing member of the Blue Man Group to Ziggy Stardust reincarnated, all fit for the next great Halloween makeup idea. But when it comes to daring makeup styles that you can actually wear without looking like you’ve really escaped from the loony bin, well, that was a challenge. Rather than trawl the runways for over-the-top avant garde looks, we decided to look to our favorite sources of inspiration — celebrities. Skip to see the crazy looks now.

A few names came to mind immediately, of course. We already said Lady Gaga, who could go head-to-head with Grace Jones with her outrageous appeal. But plenty of other celebs, from “Xtina” (Christina Aguilera — for those of you less caught up in all the celeb hoopla) to California Girl Katy Perry, know how to take risks too, and occasionally pull them off. After seeing them rock their versions of some of the crazier makeup styles we’ve seen (before loads of paparazzi, no less), we’re almost embarrassed not to have tried the looks ourselves. Curious? Well, take a gander, bust out your makeup kit, and get going! After all, makeup is fun — so add these looks to your bucket list. See the crazy makeup looks you should try.

Drag Queen Make Up Tips

Drag Queen Makeup and the art of transformation is sometimes a well kept trade secret. Some main stream makeup applications don’t apply well to drag queens. If you’ve been watching Rupaul’s Drag Race and were curious to how they do it, we’ve got you covered.

For the seasoned professional illusionist it has come as second nature, but for those who are new to doing drag, we will try to help you along.

With a series of hints and tips along with some video’s to help you get the ball rolling. We will be covering everything you could want to know about drag makeup, and for you drag kings we will be throwing in a few tips for you as well.

When necessary we will try and help you with product and other information. Remember smoke and mirrors as you do your makeup. It’s all just an illusion and it does make you feel pretty!
To complete your drag makeup look you will need the following:
1. Glue Stick or Spirit Gum

2. A day cream or moisturizer (this helps to keep your skin healthy after all that makeup)

3. Makeup Brushes for smooth and easy control.

4. Foundation, Concealer, Cosmetic powder.

5. Blush Pallet.

6. Eye Shadows (preferably in a color pallet that can be blended.)

7. Eyeliner (Pencil or Liquid)

8. Mascara.

9. Lipstick and Lipstick Gloss

10. Tweezers

11. Artificial Eyelashes

12. Glitter Optional!

Find your article of interest on your drag queen makeup tutorial
Make sure that your face is clean of oil and debris and that you have put on your day cream and or moisturizer. We’ve found that a nice foundation primer helps keep you makeup on and your skin fresh. Next we are going to show you how to conceal and cover your eyebrows. This step is a trick from the seasoned pros, and if you want a really dramatic look. Off we go…
One thing that people ask most when doing drag makeup, is how to cover your eyebrows. There are actually 3 ways to accomplish this. When doing your drag makeup look, here are the following tips on concealing those bushy eyebrows. Don’t fret you will not be shaving them off!

White Concealer Pan Stick: This method is the easiest of the 3. Using a tube of white concealer pan stick apply a thick layer on both eyebrows. Using a foundation powder, set the concealer. Apply your favorite foundation over this and you should be good to go. This method will work well on light to medium eyebrow color.

The Glue Stick Method:

Using a spool tipped brush or makeup brush, brush all your eyebrow hair in a downward motion.

Apply Glue Stick to the eyebrow making sure to evenly apply the glue. Then with your finger smooth out the glue. As the Glue begins to try apply some foundation and repeat until smooth. Tip: Using the back of a pair of tweezers also works nicely.

After your brow has completely dried, apply your foundation and pencil in your new eyebrows with your favorite eye lining pencil.

Tip on removing the glue stick: Just use a makeup wipe or a washcloth with warm to hot soapy water. Noxzema wipes are just as effective and when your done you just toss them out!

Spirit Gum Method: This method is the most time consuming and could be the messiest. Take the spirit gum and brush over both eyebrows. With the end of a makeup brush roll over so that the spirit gum gets sticky. When it gets to a sticky but almost dry stage apply the wax, rubbing and smoothing it out with your finger. Take the excess and transfer to the other eyebrow, and repeat. Once dry apply for foundation and to the next step.
After your eyebrows have been concealed, and your base foundation set, it’s time to contour. To achieve a great drag makeup look, this is a must. You must blend the foundation or risk having your makeup looking like lines on your face.

To highlight your cheeks and blend in the two foundation colors together take a small brush with a deep brown color and apply in a light diagonal direction towards your nose, just under the cheek with the lighter colored foundation. Keep working the brown color down your cheek fading it towards the jaw line. Apply this to your upper temples and on each side of your nose (the landing strip) as well, blending upwards towards the hair line.

Tip: This helps to blend in the two areas with foundation on it, It also softens the jaw line and makes your drag makeup smooth.

Next with a smaller brush take your favorite colored blush, work in circular motions to blend in the brown you just applied to the foundation. Apply this to the top of your forehead as well to round it out.

Tip: By applying the blush underneath the jaw bone, it will help to soften your drag makeup look. This is also called shadowing. When doing the shadow for your cheeks remember top of your ear, to the corner of your mouth.

Tips On a Bigger Butt

Most women in America want to nicely fill out a pair of jeans or get a big booty to wear the sexy swimsuit you just purchased, getting a bigger butt is something a  lot of women are curious about. While it is a particularly hard area to isolate  and make bigger solely through exercise, there are some things you can do that  will help you get a bigger booty!

Instructions

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     Exercise. This is the most practical option for most people because it’s  nonsurgical, and you actually build a bigger butt over time. Running and walking  uphill or on a slight incline are excellent, because the base of your gluteus  maximus is isolated and your thighs will also become firmer, helping the  distinction between the top of your thigh and the base of your butt. You may  also want to check out the machines at your local gym. Reverse leg curls and  calf raises (while squeezing your butt) will also help.

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     Go shopping. Now that you’ve worked out a little bit, treat yourself to some  new pants! But don’t just settle for any old pants. Make sure they are  form-fitting. Boot-cut, low-rise, whatever kind you’re searching for, forget  about those aspects of the pants and focus solely on the butt. Pants with a  particularly short distance between the button and top of the inseam generally  fit tighter on the butt. Most of the time, these are your designer  brands.

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  Fake it! Butt pads can be purchased online. Did you ever stuff your bra when  you were a kid? Well, it’s the same principle. These pads fit right on your  booty and help “fill out” your pants. They are fairly inexpensive. Of course,  the only drawback is that your butt isn’t actually bigger.

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  Eat. This only works if you are super skinny. If you are already bigger, you  will most likely accumulate fat all over, and therefore your butt may be big,  but so will the rest of you. However, if you truly are skinny and have a low  percentage of body fat,  putting on a few pounds might actually enhance your overall shape by making your  breasts and butt bigger.

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  Have surgery. If having a bigger booty is something that is supremely  important to you, today’s plastic surgeons can do a wonderful job by giving you  butt implants. Much like breast implants,  they will firm the area and can be fit according to your body  type.

Tips & Warnings

• Work out in pairs. If you are using step 1, buddy up with someone to keep you  motivated to work out. It may take several weeks to see results, and you don’t  want to quit before you get your booty!

• Before starting a new workout routine, be sure to consult your  physician.

• If considering plastic surgery, be sure the doctor is board-certified and has  references you can speak with who have undergone the same  procedure.